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I have an account on eharmony. 9 out of 10 single girls that are looking for meaningful relationships list the book, He Just Isn't That Into You as a book they've enjoyed. They all have their reasons, but they all take something different away from reading it. I decided to reverse engineer this situation and buy a copy for myself and give it a read. I'm going to know thy enemy and go at this all Sun Tzu style. According to the looks I got when I put it on the counter and the awkward avoidance of eye contact the dude gave me, I think they all think I'm gay now. Little do they know this is covert spy vs spy shit. If you want to know what dames are thinking, read what they base their thoughts on.
Anyways, I'm out to go read about guys and how to decipher their actions in relationships...
[update] another great talk on the phone... things are going very very well.
Anyways, I'm out to go read about guys and how to decipher their actions in relationships...
[update] another great talk on the phone... things are going very very well.
posted by NJX70 at 8:52 PM
8 Comments:
Quit calling us the enemy! :)
Let me know if the book says anything different than this: if guy ignores you he's not into you. If guy makes an effort, he digs you.
... I thought that was what you guys did already.
I say "the enemy" in a loving way.
I will definatly let you know. Once I'm excited to review a book that is targeted to disillusioned single women. I don't know why, but I feel like I should have a unique perspective.
The real reason I'm reading it is to figure out if any of my natural tendencies are being read as me not being interested. I would hate to just be living my life in my typical way and be sending out the signal that I'm not into a chick.
Too many girls read this to discount it. I am going to do my best to finish it as quickly as possible.
and thanks for all the comments. It's great to know people are coming in and enjoying.
I bought it too actually. It has a removable cover so you could read it in public. I think the best part of the book is that it creates an illusion of most guys "not being that into you". They key here is THAT, there are guys into you, but they are not THAT into you. Brilliant.
Heck, even I, the over-the-top-nice-guy began to wonder if maybe my ex thought I wasnt that into her. Probably not (more likely she wasn't that into me).
So basically it gives women 100 different reasons to dump their current boyfriend. Some valid, some more dubious. It will definatelly weed out all the players, bad boys, those who play hard to get, those who read askmen.com, etc. Which is probably a good thing.
I love it for that very reason. It makes it obvious to girls that they should be looking for nice guys that actually care about them like us saps and stay away from the ones who don't try.
I put in a lot of effort into my relationships, and I am glad this book is spelling out that effort is what you're looking for.
I also need to read it because there have been times in my previous relationships where I was "too busy" or "out of town" and it really was that I wasn't that into her. If I had realized that at the time instead of ignoring it and professing my undieng love for a chick that I simply didn't dig then the painful times I had could have been averted. Your subconscious doesn't lie.
ahh see you could have just ordered the book online and sidestepped the whole avoiding eyecontact thing.
I'm sure it's written in female code so guys like yourself can't hack into it. heh
Good luck though! ; )
I think the latter chapters (breakups, cheating, etc) apply to both men and women. The advice is rather good, simply replace 'he' with 'she' as you read along.
sorry sassy, all the actual advice came from a straight guy. Clear dude talk. I'm on the inside now.
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